WHO AM I?

Very small book...Read it and u will come know to know the purest form of Spiritual Knowledge...No theories, no jargons and no mysteries.  Spiritual laws have been explained in very simple way.  The cost of the book is Rs.7/- and 16 Pages.

• “Who am I?” can be summarized as the core concept of the teachings of Bhagavan Sri Ramana Maharshi.
• The “I” thought is the first to arise in the mind.  When the enquiry “Who am I?” is persistently pursued, all other thoughts get destroyed, and finally the “I” thought itself vanished leaving the supreme non-dual Self alone. 
• When the false identification of the Self with the phenomena of non-self such as the body and mind, ends, then there will be an illumination.
• Body changes, Mind changes, Karma changes, Spirit also changes (otherwise it cannot be merged in Supreme Power or God).  If “I” am not the body, mind, karma or soul, then what am “I”? As seers said, We are Supreme Power.
• The process of enquiry is not an easy one.  As one enquires, “Who am I?”, other thoughts will arise and one should not yield to them  and ask oneself “To whom do these thoughts arise?”.
• Through constant enquiry one should make the mind stay in its source, without allowing it to wander away and get lost in the mazes of thought created by itself.
• There are many methods practised by different people such as chanting, meditation, yoga and other disciplines only to train the mind to stay on single source of thought and improve concentration.
• “CONCENTRATION & NO THOUGHT” are the basic foundations for spirituality.  No growth in spiritual path unless we have these both.
• As we go on identifying and knowing what is real and unreal (thoughts which are real and unreal pertaining to you), u will not entertain unnecessary thoughts by which you slowly destroy the thoughts and the Self is realized.
• ‘Not this’ – if u can do this for every thought or idea u get, then not only u can control urself from unnecessary thoughts but also will get the best thought for a particular problem or situation.
• The problem of man is that he is not actually what he thinks and is far away from reality. We assume, guess and feel about ourselves which is always far from truth.
• When the world (feelings, emotions, expectations, realizations, etc.) which is what is seen has been removed, there will be realization of the Self.
• Mind causes all thoughts.  Apart from thoughts, there is no such thing as mind.  In deep sleep there are no thoughts and there is no world.  When the mind comes out of the Self, the world appears.  Therefore, when the world appears (to be real), the Self does not appear; and when the Self appears (shines) the world does not appear.  When one persistently inquires into the nature of the mind, the mind will end leaving the Self (as the residue).  What is referred to as the Self is the Atman.  The mind always exists only in dependence on something gross and cannot stay alone.  It is the mind that is called the subtle body or the soul (jiva). (Can anyone explain this in more simple way and in depth…pls.).
• That which rises as “I” in this body is the mind.
• Thought = I = Mind = Heart.
• Arises = arises = arises = stay in
• To whom has this thought arised? To body, to mind, to ego, to inferiority complex in us, to self image, to your social reputation….check every thought in this manner, then u will have a clear understanding of your emotions.
• Classify every thought as to whom – mind OK – But is this thought related to Body, Mind, Senses, Ego, hatred, love, passion, self image, inferiority complex, customs, past experience or your expectations.
• Thought arises -> to whom has this thought arise -> Answer is me -> who am I? -> Mind -> which type of emotions this mind is having at present -> Emotions of body, ego, senses, hatred, love, passion, self image, inferiority complex, customs, past experiences or your expectations.
• When thoughts arise, one should not pursue them, but should inquire “to whom do they arise? And what type of thoughts are they?” When you question your thoughts without any attachment and see them as they are, those thoughts and their effects on you will go away.  Then that moment that thought dies away.  As soon as a thought dies, mind will fall on another or new thought. Then u has to handle in it in the same way.  The time between the death of a thought and birth of a thought is the most valuable to us.  This stage of no thought is what we all desire and are trying all types of methods only to retain that stage.  As u increase this ‘no thought stage’ u will go INTERNALLY more and more and EXTERNALLY less and less.  Continued practice is what is required to RETAIN this stage and many people spent all their life time for this gain mastery of this stage.  This stage is the most important stage for meditator and is the foundation for all other spiritual practices.
• When the mind becomes quiescent, the breath is controlled and when the breath is controlled, the mind becomes quiescent.
• Q: one pointed concentration is accepting only one thought and rejecting all other thoughts.  Though one is accepting a single thought or mantra or image, he is rejecting all others.  So it brings the person almost to the same place of “Who am I?” method?
• Through meditation on the forms of God and through repetition of mantras, the mind becomes one-pointed.  When the mind is occupied with a name or form, it will grasp that alone.  When the mind expands in the form of countless thoughts, each thought becomes weak; but as thoughts get resolved the mind becomes one-pointed and strong.
• Without yielding to the doubt ‘Is it possible or not?’ one should persistently hold on to the meditation of the Self.
• Try not thinking of the Results.  Try and Try inspite of many failures.
• One should completely renounce the thought “I am a sinner” and concentrate keenly on meditation of the Self; then one would surely succeed.
• Mind is only one.  It is the residual impressions that are of two kinds – auspicious and inauspicious.  When the mind is under the influence of auspicious impressions it is called good; and when it is under the influence of inauspicious impressions it is regarded as evil.
• The mind should not be allowed to wander towards worldly objects and what concerns other people.
• All that one gives to others one gives to one’s self.
• As thoughts arise, they should be destroyed then and there in the very place of their origin, through inquiry.
• The Self is that where there is absolutely no ‘I’ thought. That is called “Silence”.
• Giving one’s self up to God means remaining constantly in the Self without giving room for the rise of any thoughts other than that of the Self.
• Bhakti Marg: Whatever burdens are thrown on God, He bears them.  Since the supreme power of God makes all things move, why should we, without submitting ourselves to it, constantly worry ourselves with thoughts as to what should be done and how and what should not be done and how not?  We know the train carries all loads, so after getting on it why should we carry our small luggage on our head to our discomfort, instead of putting it down in the train and feeling at ease?
• As thoughts arise, destroying them utterly without any residue in the very place of their origin is non-attachment.
• One can know oneself only with one’s own eye of knowledge and not with somebody else’s.
• There will come a time when one will have to forget all that one has learned.
• Happiness is the very nature of the Self; happiness and the Self are not different.  There is no happiness in any object of the world.  We imagine through our ignorance that we derive happiness from objects.
• When the mind goes out, it experiences misery.
• When the object desired is obtained or the object disliked is removed, the mind becomes inward-turned and enjoys pure Self-Happiness.
• What is called the world is only a thought.
• When there is no thought, the mind experiences happiness and when the thought appears, it goes through misery.
• Remaining quiet is what is called wisdom-insight.  To remain quiet is to resolve the mind in the Self.
• Desirelessness is refraining from turning the mind towards any object. 

For more information and guidance, visit  http://www.sriramanamaharshi.org or ashram@sriramanamaharshi.org

Note – The above points are notes I have scrubbed down while reading the book “Who am I?” published by Sri Ramanasramam, Tiruvannamalai. I am blogging this material only to encourage the readers who see my blog to read the book and is not meant for any commercial purpose. It is just sharing information about a good book.

Regards,

Tirumalanath

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The healing power of books

Getting into reading habit is one of the significant developments in my life.  I think I started sometime around when I was in 6^th standard reading Telugu newspapers and my all time favorite newspaper ‘The Hindu’.  Around the same time, I started my first magazine reading with a telugu magazine ‘Wonder world’ and later on moved to ‘Competitors Success Review - CSR’ and continued with it for almost a decade.  I am proud to say I have till date all the magazines of CSR.  Then I went on to compare news in Telugu and English newspapers as well as from different local newspaper.  Then I started with India Today, The Week and Outlook.  But above all, it was the ‘Frontline’ magazine for which I waited eagerly.  Till date, Frontline and Hindu newspapers are my benchmarks in regard to writing and presenting a topic.

After when I first stuck with my failure, I got my hands on these Self Help books and with them I also started reading Autobiographies and historical books.  On the same path of reading, I started my journey into spiritual books with Ramakrishna Math books which were at affordable prices for me at that time.  Another great thing which happens to me was the discovery of State owned libraries which contains tons and tons of good books.  I almost spent my Engineering days in the local library and read any and all books on which I can lay my hands.  As these books were costly and I couldn’t offer them at that time, I use to go to library (as they didn’t allow Non-locals to borrow the books) and spend the whole day. 

Second hand books purchased on Sundays in Abids, Hyderabad, is from where I started my own library which old and new books.  I am proud to say I have a collection of almost 2000 books ranging from spirituality, history, autobiographies, self help and technical books.

Books have more influence on me.  I also depend on books for emotional support as they are my stress busters.   It takes me 60-70 pages per hour and almost 4 to 5 hours to complete a book depending on the size of the book.  I normally underline or take notes during reading and will summarize the whole book as per my understanding.  When I feel bored, I pick up two or three books and travel to some nearby places and make a point to return after completely reading those books.

I like serious books.  I hate reading novels, coffee table books and classic English literature.

I have a big list of books to read and very happy to have this habit of reading.

Happy Reading….

Tirumalanath

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How to Reach the Goal? By Swami Bhuteshananda

‘My mind does not find interest in japa and meditation. What shall I do?'
`Mind is a machine that works just in the manner you run it. We have to consider—how much time in twenty-four hours we try to do japa and meditation and how much time we spend in other works.
But what is the remedy? A simple remedy is to try to keep the mind engaged in the thought of God for some more time. Sri Ramakrishna has said, `Do you know how the mind is? It is like a cloth just returned from the washerman. It takes the colour you dip it in.' If we keep the mind in worldly thoughts for much time, those very thoughts will continue to rise at the time of japa-meditation.
If you want to relish a thing for which you have no taste, you have to try to direct your mind to that very thing. Repeated efforts ultimately develop relish. And Ramakrishna prescribed the way also: (1) to chant the name of God, (2) to keep holy company and, (3) to occasionally think of God in solitude.
To chant the name of God means japa, meditation, worship, visit to places of God, and service to God. Holy company means to mix with those who think of God and love Him. Again, mixing with them does not mean just to sit near them; it means to assimilate their ideas and follow their examples. Otherwise it is no sâdhusanga (holy company). The third way is to live in solitude occasionally. A short stay in solitude from time to time is necessary.

(1) Japa: The first means prescribed by Sri Ramakrishna—to chant the name of God, i.e. to think of Him and worship Him—is the way of acquiring devotion. This devotion has been called vaidhi bhakti or preparatory devotion. By the cultivation of this preparatory devotion, gradually love of God develops. A verse in the Bhagavatam says, bhaktyâ samjâyate bhaktih—devotion begets devotion. Supreme devotion, i.e. love of God, develops through preparatory devotion and as a result symptoms of devotion like thrill, horripilation, etc., manifest in the body.
(2) Holy Company: Sâdhusanga does not mean just to live with a sadhu or to visit him. It means that you have to accept him as your ideal and try to follow his examples.' A sadhu is he whose company activates God-consciousness. Those who come in contact with him become influenced by his feelings. That's why sâdhusanga is efficacious.
(3) Solitude: The third means prescribed by the Master is occasional stay in solitude. We are so habituated to live forgetting God that we have no comprehension of the real nature of samsâra (worldliness).

Neither a monk nor a householder achieves anything until he realizes that worldly concerns are worthless and God alone is real.

For more information and queries, contact Sri Ramakrishna Math in your place or visit http://www.rkmath.org/articles/howtoreachthegoal

Regards,

Tirumalanath

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Meditation – Mind and Patanjali’s Yoga by Swami Bhaskarananda

Disclaimer: [As these types of topics cannot be put down in very few lines and there are different methods and schools of thoughts regarding the same, I, being at the beginner level, trying to follow what great sages or swami has written, will be blogging all those materials which I have read and thought of useful.  These are notes or scribing I normally take when I read a book or some stuff on net and is not intended for any commercial use and no claim is made by me on this written material.  This written stuff belongs to the writer or publisher or organization but is blogged by me only to spread awareness about a good book or method so that the blog readers are encouraged to read the original books.  Details about the book name, author, publisher, organization, price and the links are given below. ]

Meditation is a state of intense concentration.  If the mind is made to flow in an uninterrupted manner to its object of thought for a prolonged period of time, it is called meditation.

“Tatra pratyaikatanata dhyanam” i.e., “Uninterrupted thinking of one thought is Dhyana or meditation.” – Yoga Sutras 3/2.

It is not true that we cannot concentrate.  What we lack is the ability to concentrate our minds on everything, and under all circumstances.  It is easy to concentrate on what is pleasant.  The difficulty arises when we have to concentrate on something unpleasant.  A student finds it hard to concentrate on a dull and uninteresting book and a parishioner feels drowsy when listening to a boring sermon.

Yet, all that is pleasant is not necessarily good.  On the other hand, what is unpleasant may be good and beneficial.  We must learn to concentrate on whatever we do, whether pleasant or unpleasant, as long as it is beneficial for us.  Meditation – which is no other than training in concentration – can enable us to do this.

Concentration is indispensable in achieving success in life.  Success in no area of human life can be attained without it.  Swami Vivekananda used to say that the different between a genius and an idiot is in their power of concentration.

Benefits:

Some say that meditation is good for health.  It removes stress by relaxing the body and mind.  It reduces high blood pressure.  It helps slow down the aging process and improves memory.  Some also say that meditation helps in gaining supernatural powers.  While all these claims may be true, the sages tell us that these are not the best reasons to meditate.  Rather, meditation has a much higher purpose which is God-Realization or experiencing the Ultimate Truth. 

Now a days, Yoga is often incorrectly known to be only some physical postures that can enhance health and longevity.  In India, where all these techniques were originally developed – such exercises are called Hatha Yoga.  The word Yoga has many other meanings.  In the context of spiritual life, it means methods which help one in establishing communion with the Divine Reality, viz. Raja Yoga, Jnana Yoga, Bhakti Yoga, Karma Yoga, etc.

Man is a combination of

1.       The physical body

2.       The vital energy

3.       The sense organs

4.       The motor organs

5.       The mind

These put together are called the body-mind-complex.  Although involved with the body-mind-complex, the soul of man is not a part of it.  The soul is eternal, changeless, infinite, and the only source of consciousness.  Man’s body-mind-complex acquires consciousness by borrowing it from the soul.  The soul is also called the Divine Spirit, the Divine Self, and the Divine Essence.

Methods of God-Realization – The Four Yogas

The Sanskrit word Yoga means a yoke or a link – a link between the spiritual aspirant and God, means a technique or path by following which we can establish communion with God.

Hinduism offers many different Yogas or techniques to reach God.  Out of them, four are most important as they correspond to the four broad catagories into which Hinduism classes all spiritual seekers.  These Yogas are:

1.       Bhakti Yoga or the path of devotion.  This path is meant primarily for people who are temperamentally emotional and respond easily to love and affection.

2.       Jnana Yoga or the path of rational inquiry.  This path is prescribed for people of rational temperament to whom reason appeals more than faith.

3.       Raja Yoga or the path of psychic control.  Raja Yoga is for aspirants who are of meditative temperament with a natural yearning to completely maser their minds.

4.       Karma Yoga or the path of right action.  The path of Karma Yoga is most attractive to people who are habitually very active.

All these paths, except for Karma Yoga, prescribe their own kinds of meditation to experience Divinity.  The path of Karma Yoga teaches the practice of selfless action as a means to experience Divinity.  It does not teach meditation.  Raja Yoga, however, puts maximum emphasis on meditation.

Book:  Meditation – Mind and Patanjali’s Yoga by Swami Bhaskarananda, Sri Ramakrishna Math, Chennai.  Price Rs.75/-.  Pages – 252.

For more information and guidance, visit http://www.ramakrishnavedantamath.org or ramakrishnavedantamath@vsnl.net

Note – The above points are notes I have scrubbed down while reading the book “Meditation – Mind and Patanjali’s” written by Swami Bhaskarananda. I am blogging this material only to encourage the readers who see my blog to read the book and is not meant for any commercial purpose. It is just sharing information about a good book.

Regards,

Tirumalanath

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The Maharshi and His Message by Paul Brunton

The Maharshi and His Message by Paul Brunton.

Published by Sri Ramanasramam, Tiruvannamalai

Ramana Maharshi guidance:

1.       Know first that ‘I’ and then you shall know the truth.

2.       There is only one thing to be done.  Look into your own self.  Do this in the right way and you shall find the answer to all your problems.

3.       Through deep reflection on the nature of one’s self and through constant meditation, the light can be found.

4.       How do you know that no progress has been made?  It is not easy to perceive one’s progress in the spiritual realm.

5.       Guru can give his discipline all that he needs for his quest. 

6.       Getting enlightenment depends upon the maturity of the seeker’s mind.  The gun powder catches fire in an instant, while much time is needed to set fire to the coal.

7.       Why should you trouble yourself about the future? You do not even properly know about the present!  Take care of the present; the future will then take care of itself.

8.       As you are, so is the world.  Without understanding yourself, what is the use of trying to understand the world?  People waste their energies over all such questions.  First, find out the truth behind yourself; then you will be in a better position to understand the truth behind the world, of which yourself is a part.

9.       When you go back there, you shall have this peace which you now feel, but its price will be that you shall henceforth can’t aside the idea that you are this body or this brain.  When this peace will flow into you, then you shall have to forget your own self, for you will have turned your life over to THAT.

10.   The life of action need not be renounced.  If you will meditate for an hour or two every day, you can then carry on with your duties.  If you meditate in the right manner, then the current of mind induced will continue to flow even in the midst of your work.  It is as though there were two ways of expressing the same idea; the same line which you take in meditation will be expressed in your activities.

11.   As you go on you will find that your attitude towards people, events and objects will gradually change.  Your actions will tend to follow your meditations of their own accord.

12.   A man should surrender the personal selfishness which binds him to this world.  Giving up the false self is the true renunciation.

13.   You have to ask yourself the question, ‘Who am I?  This investigation will lead in the end to the discovery of something within you which is behind the mind.  Solve that great problem, and you will solve all other problems thereby?

14.   Man’s real nature is happiness.  Happiness is inborn in the true self.  His search for happiness is an unconscious search for his true self.  The true Self is imperishable; therefore when a man finds it, he finds a happiness which does not come to an end.  All men, without exception, are consciously or unconsciously seeking happiness.  Even a sinner is trying to find the Self’s happiness in every sin which they commit.  This striving is instinctive in man, but they do not know that they are really seeking their true selves, and so they try these wicked ways first as a means to happiness.  Of course, they are wrong ways, for a man’s acts are reflected back to him.

15.   To understand SELF, it is first necessary for a man to analyse himself.  Because it has long been his habit to think as others think, he has never faced his ‘I’ in the true manner.  He has not a correct picture of himself; he has too long identified himself with the body and the brain.  Therefore, I tell you to pursue this enquiry, “Who am I”.

16.   The first and foremost of all thoughts, the primeval thought in the mind of every man, is the thought ‘I’.  It is only after the birth of this thought that any other thoughts can arise at all.  It is only after the first personal pronoun ‘I’ has arisen in the mind that the personal pronoun ‘you’ can make its appearance.  If you could mentally follow the ‘I’ thread until it leads you back to its source, you would discover that, just as it is the first thought to appear, so is it the last to disappear.  This is a matter which can be experienced.  It is possible to go inwards until the last thought ‘I’ gradually vanishes.

17.   The sense of ‘I’ pertains to the person, the body and the brain.  When a man knows his true Self for the first time, something else arises from the depths of his being and takes possession of him.   That something is behind the mind; it is infinite, divine, eternal.  Some people call it the kingdom of heaven, others call it the soul, still others name it Nirvana, and we Hindus call it Liberation; you may give it what name you wish.  When this happens, a man has not really lost himself; rather, he has found himself.

18.   ‘Who am I?, if you begin to perceive that neither the body nor the brain nor the desires are really you, then the very attitude of enquiry will eventually draw the answer to you out of the depths of your own beings; it will come to you of its own accord as a deep realization.

19.   Know the real Self and then the truth will shine forth within your heart like sunshine.  The mind will become untroubled and real happiness will flood it; for happiness and the true self are identical.  You will have no more doubts once you attain this Self-awareness.

20.   The greatest error of a man is to think that he is weak by nature, evil by nature.  Every man is divine and strong in his real nature.  What are weak and evil are his habits, his desires and thoughts, but not himself.

21.   Who am I?

Am I this body of flesh, blood and bone?

Am I the mind, the thoughts and the feelings which distinguish me from every other person?

22.   Pursue the enquiry ‘Who am I? Relentlessly.  Analyse your entire personality.  Try to find out where the I-thought begins.  Go on with your meditations.  Keep turning your attention within.  One day the wheel of thought will slow down and an intuition will mysteriously arise. Follow that intuition let your thinking stop, and it will eventually lead you to the goal.

23.   Trace thought to its place of origin.  Watch for the real Self to reveal itself, and then your thoughts will die down on their own accord.

‘The Maharshi and His Message’ is a small book of around 80 pages which are the extracts of three chapters from the Paul Brunton’s ‘A Search in Secret India’ book.  This book starts with the invitation to Brunton to visit Tiruvannamalai from a disciple of Ramana Maharshi and explains about all the personal experiences and discussions he had with Maharshi.

I like the second chapter “The Hill of the Holy Beacon” more.

Source: The Maharshi and His Message – Paul Brunton.  Sri Ramanasramam, Tiruvannamalai.  Price Rs.20/-. Pages – 77.

For more information and guidance, visit www. ramana-maharshi.org  or ashram@ramana-maharshi.org

Disclaimer – The above points are notes I have scrubbed down while reading the book “The Maharshi and His Message” written by Paul Brunton. I am blogging this material only to encourage the readers who see my blog to read the book and is not meant for any commercial purpose. It is just sharing information about a good book.

Regards,

Tirumalanath

tirumalanath@gmail.com

Book: Science of Psychic Phenomena by Swami Abhedananda

Book: Science of Psychic Phenomena by Swami Abhedananda,

Ramakrishna Vedanta Math, Kolkotta. Price Rs.60/-

If you want to know how someone is healed by praying, or visiting a temple or by any swami or about the miracles done by few people of removing physical and mental problems of others, then this book provides the basic information. This book also deals with the subjects like why someone gets illness – Physical and Mental and about all other alternative treatments and so on. Extracts from the book:

v Those, who care for name, fame and worldly prosperity, may run after psychic powers and exercise them for their selfish motives; but the True seekers after spiritual perfection never crave them, but shun them as obstacles and source of bondage and self-delusion.

v The path to spiritual perfection is never smooth or easy going, but from time to time, these appears high hills of temptations as pseudo-gems of siddhis or psychic powers, which delude and mislead to individual soul. The real aspirants of the divine knowledge never deluded by them.

v Human mind is nothing but a continued adoption to environments. The more perfect the adaptation, the more perfect is the manifestation of life. The law of adaptation is not mechanical or chemical, but it is what we call the manifestation of the life-force or vital energy. Everything in this universe is governed by this law, and the violation of this law brings disorder in the body and the mind. It also brings ill-health, diseases and similar disturbances. Life-force or prana is the prime mover of the mind. It is also the sustainer and preserver of the organism in the universe. So, if anyone can control this life-force, he becomes the master of the body and the mind.

v There are three spaces – Physical, Mental and Spiritual. Spiritual space is higher than the mental space and mental space is behind the physical space. So, messages can be sent on the mental space and can be received.

v According to the science of breath, each living soul possesses the power of prana, by which are caused the activities of the motor and sensory nerves. The nerve-currents which travel through those nerves are produced by the vibration of prana. The nerve-centers in the spine are the storehouses of this life-force, where it is generated and kept. In the healing powers, the more we can store up this power of prana, the stronger we shall be physically and mentally. He, who possesses a sufficient quantity of this breath of life or prana, has perfect health and enormous vitality and strength, which he can impact to others, if he wishes to do so. This is the secret of magnetic healing. The loss of prana or nerve-force is the cause of nervous prostration and of all other diseases.

For more information and guidance, visit http://www.ramakrishnavedantamath.org or ramakrishnavedantamath@vsnl.net

Note – The above points are notes I have scrubbed down while reading the book “Science of Psychic Phenomena” written by Swami Abhedananda. I am blogging this material only to encourage the readers who see my blog to read the book and is not meant for any commercial purpose. It is just sharing information about a good book.

Regards,

Tirumalanath

tirumalanath@gmail.com

Book: Wise and Other Wise (A salute to Life)

Book: Wise and Other Wise (A salute to Life) – Sudha Murthy MAMI (as we call Narayana Murthy as MAMA)

Published by East West Books Pvt. Ltd, Hyderabad.

Is there any relation with the book title with book publisher? Wise or other wise published by east west publishers. Think!

This book I have read in State Library, Hyderabad. In those days, MAMI was writing columns in newspapers every week and I was a regular reader of those columns. I came to know few things about Sudha Murthy Father, about her son and also about how marriage proposals are decided and how they are rated.

Below are the extracts/notes I have taken from that book.

· There is a grace in accepting also.

· Had our lives become so busy that grief had become proportionate to the usefulness of the loved one we have lost?

· The youngsters listened without saying a word. And without chewing. (Thiru – we always did the same in the class and now in the boardroom)

· Friendship means faith between the two.

· If you want to be happy, you will learn on your own.

· Education doesn’t mean scoring good marks in exams or getting certificates. (Thiru – I am not in Infosys because of good marks only. No campus selection without good grades. No Infosys campus interviews if you are not from the good engineering college. I am one of those unlucky guys with no campus selection, no good marks….)

· Life is an exam where the syllabus is unknown and question papers are not set. Nor are there model answer papers. There are various types of questions, which can come from any direction, but one should not run away.

· To face difficulties, education and financial independence are just tools, but one must develop confidence throughout life.

· Your best friend is yourself and your worst enemy is also yourself, isn’t it? (Thiru – it depends …situation based. Best friends are few but we have worst enemy always. Teacher in the school, lecturer in college and manager in the office)

· Educated people always comment on others. Their intelligence is spent in criticizing others. They always think that there is foul play in everything. We dream of so many things in life, but we may not be able to achieve it. Achievement is the product of many factors and not of hard work alone. You require the right opportunity, the right people to work and the right time. May be, there is an element of luck too.

· An achiever has to work hard and have faith in his works. So many times, people may work hard but may not achieve much. That does not mean that they are any less than others who are more successful. If I am unable to realize my dream and somebody else does, it is better for me to feel happy for the other person rather than to feel sorry for myself. (Thiru – I suffered from this problem throughout my college life. But the feeling of myself not able to achieve is more than the feeling of happiness for someone success. Only recently I realized how much happy I felt when one of my close college friend achieved success in his life. It was a tremendous feeling altogether. But for everyone I don’t. Many times we feel jealously for those unknown and unrelated people who had the success. May be, the craving for the success is making us to behave like that.)

· The best culture is one in which we rejoice in each other’s glory. We should have a positive attitude. We should be able to admire, rather than feel jealous or resentful of the achievement of others.

· Be fair to others. One may not achieve a lot in real life but being fair to others is a great quality. We must realize that.

· Vision without action is merely a dream, action without vision is merely passing time; but vision and action together can change the world (Thiru – I think this is my MAMA’s saying……)

· Every drop makes an ocean; every grain makes a granary. (Thiru – likewise, every employee makes an company)

· It is better to light a candle than curse the darkness. (Thiru – what if u don’t have the candle, what if u have the candle but not the matchbox, what if u have the both, but there is heavy wind and rain, what if u have both, but your manager has told not to light them and more over what if – u have candle, matchbox, no wind or rain, permission, but u r unable to light up the candle)

A good parable or story: by Sudha Murthy

A beggar and the young girl were playing on the road because there was no traffic. They were laughing, clapping and screaming joyously as if they were in paradise. Hunger and rain did not matter. They were totally drenched and totally happy. In envied their zest for life.

That scene has forced me to look at my own life. I realized I had so many comforts, none of which they had. But they had the most important of all assets, one which I lacked. They knew how to be happy with life as it was. I felt ashamed of myself. I even started to make a list of what I had and what I did not have. I found I had more to be grateful for than most people could imagine. That day, I decided to change my attitude towards life using the beggar as my role model. (Thiru – almost same incident happen with me..after 2 0r 3 years into my career, there came a time where there were lot of doubts on job security and it started affecting my professional and personal life. During the same period, I happen to read an excellent article by Mind Tree CEO about a ‘Tomota seller’. [ I will try to blog that column soon…I have the paper cutting somewhere..i need to search it] It was an eye-opener for me and made me realize that there is more in life than just a good career and there are lot more people who look very ordinary to us but are leading life on the edges of danger but are able to enjoy the life as it is. That is what we have to learn…..the art which our school or college education has not given…but definitely life will teach us..but even better if we can learn as soon as possible before life teaches its own lessons. Because life lessons are always painful, which the world calls them as “experiences”.)

Sayings of Sudha Murthy Father:

Tears cannot solve age-old problems. We can only try to reduce them. You cannot change the life of every single person. In your lifetime, if you can rehabilitate at least ten such people, I would be a proud father. Proud that I have given birth to a daughter who could change the lives of ten helpless women.

Everybody should know their own capacity and strength. One should also know one’s own limitations. It is more difficult to recognize our weaknesses than our strength. Don’t aim for the sky. Keep your feet firmly on the ground and work around you. There is so much misery and darkness. Try to light as many candles as possible.

Note – The above points are notes I have scrubbed down while reading the book “Wise and Other Wise (A salute to Life)” written by Sudha Murthy. I am blogging this material only to encourage the readers who see my blog to read the book and is not meant for any commercial purpose. It is just sharing information about a good book.

Regards,

Tirumalanath

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